The Red Couch | The Red Couch | Activity https://theredcouch.co/members/red2017/activity/ Activity feed for The Red Couch. Mon, 20 Apr 2026 09:35:56 +0000 https://buddypress.org/?v= en 30 hourly 2 e2998c0cae858783523317ff9bfc0929 The Red Couch posted a new activity comment https://theredcouch.co/2025/09/26/the-dark-side-of-vanilla-why-playing-it-safe-in-the-bedroom-is-killing-your-sex-life/#comment-40123 Mon, 24 Nov 2025 20:23:38 +0000 Thanks for the shout out! We miss those parties too. We recommend The Lux in Crete if you haven’t visited. Haven’t been there in several years, but that was our favorite lifestyle club back in the day.

In reply to - The Red Couch wrote a new post The Dark Side of Vanilla: Why Playing It Safe in the Bedroom is Killing Your Sex Life Let’s be honest—vanilla is great for ice cream, but when it comes to your sex life? It gets boring fast. Far too many married couples fall into the van […] ]]> d28af96f083c268f19cfb2e983fe6831 The Red Couch wrote a new post https://theredcouch.co/?p=244 Thu, 20 Nov 2025 21:00:18 +0000 The Top 5 Sexual Turn-Ons for Women (That Most Men Overlook) Every woman is wired differently — but if there’s one universal truth, it’s this: turning her on starts long before the clothes come off.For couples explo […]

]]> 0 df50d2174bd65ee77114c6ffe7a7deef The Red Couch wrote a new post https://theredcouch.co/?p=1378 Thu, 13 Nov 2025 21:00:33 +0000 The Cheating Lie: Why Swingers Are Actually More Faithful Than Vanilla Couples Let’s get this out of the way: swingers get a bad rap.To outsiders, the lifestyle looks like chaos — endless partners, blurred boundaries, and zero loy […]

]]> 0 57b94a8a16e1c295df933ad3188cd387 The Red Couch wrote a new post https://theredcouch.co/?p=1374 Thu, 06 Nov 2025 21:00:02 +0000 Swinger Burnout Is Real: How to Slow Down Without Losing the Spark The lifestyle of open relationships, swinger events, and nonstop adventure can feel exhilarating—but for many couples, it also comes with an unexpected c […]

]]> 0 5493045b1061e641b92877f6fef4d02c The Red Couch wrote a new post https://theredcouch.co/?p=1371 Thu, 30 Oct 2025 21:00:53 +0000 How to Reignite Your Marriage Through Ethical Non-Monogamy For couples who’ve been together for years, sustaining passion, intimacy, and connection can feel like a constant climb. The same vanilla date nights, p […]

]]> 0 261d765794c9ac3eeb61c684b834f3c6 The Red Couch wrote a new post https://theredcouch.co/?p=1364 Fri, 24 Oct 2025 21:00:43 +0000 The Art of Flirting at a Lifestyle Event: How to Be Sexy Without Being Pushy Flirting is the heartbeat of the swinger lifestyle—it’s playful, confident, and full of possibility. But there’s a fine line between being sexy and being […]

]]> 0 8d287c707b234450ca4f9d00ca22fc32 The Red Couch wrote a new post https://theredcouch.co/?p=1359 Fri, 17 Oct 2025 17:00:10 +0000 Date Nights That Go Beyond the Lifestyle: Keeping Your Marriage First In the swinger lifestyle, it’s easy to get caught up in the excitement—sexy parties, meeting new couples, spontaneous playdates, and weekend getaways. Whi […]

]]> 0 445bfa8013f5215d40a95017780719fa The Red Couch wrote a new post https://theredcouch.co/?p=1356 Fri, 10 Oct 2025 17:00:41 +0000 Sexy & Spooky: How Swingers Celebrate Halloween in Style Halloween isn’t just for kids in costumes and pumpkin carving—it’s the unofficial holiday of the swinger lifestyle. From erotic masquerade balls to priva […]

]]> 0 9d3ce349888439fc1f883de5a2b24532 The Red Couch wrote a new post https://theredcouch.co/?p=1353 Fri, 03 Oct 2025 17:00:40 +0000 Swinger Confessions: The Hot, Hilarious, and Horrifying Truths Couples Never Share Online Let’s be honest: the swinger lifestyle isn’t just champagne, jacuzzis, and flawless bodies straight out of a fantasy. Behind the sexy Instagram pics and […]

]]> 0 4d06c74a2ad5db11ca777f2ccab32851 The Red Couch wrote a new post https://theredcouch.co/?p=1349 Fri, 26 Sep 2025 17:00:22 +0000 The Dark Side of Vanilla: Why Playing It Safe in the Bedroom is Killing Your Sex Life Let’s be honest—vanilla is great for ice cream, but when it comes to your sex life? It gets boring fast. Far too many married couples fall into the van […]

]]> 2 eea5acb284b7dd7364b71ff5c51fe549 The Red Couch wrote a new post https://theredcouch.co/?p=1341 Sun, 21 Sep 2025 19:00:33 +0000 Monogamy is Overrated: Why Swinging Might Save Your Marriage We’ve all been sold the same story: meet “the one,” get married, and live happily ever after. But here’s the hard truth—monogamy doesn’t work for everyon […]

]]> 0 b2e95ae3f1f281bf8d189ea42d80329a The Red Couch wrote a new post https://theredcouch.co/?p=1272 Fri, 01 Aug 2025 12:00:16 +0000 The Best Swinger Vacation Destinations: Where to Travel for a Lifestyle Getaway Ready to turn up the heat on your next getaway? Whether you’re seasoned in the lifestyle or just curious to explore, these swinger vacation destinations o […]

]]> 0 5dcb391056f49f83afc697be860e3347 The Red Couch wrote a new post https://theredcouch.co/?p=1323 Tue, 22 Jul 2025 22:19:23 +0000 The Guide We Wish We Had: How to Talk to Your Partner About Opening Up Your Relationship Let’s be real: nobody teaches you how to ask your spouse if they’re cool with inviting a third into the bedroom. There’s no “Welcome to Marriag […]

]]> 0 dfd14b63bef080ba02e85b5c57a26dc4 The Red Couch wrote a new post https://theredcouch.co/?p=1308 Fri, 06 Jun 2025 22:23:25 +0000 How to Turn Down a Swinger Couple Kindly and Respectfully Handling Rejection with Class in the Lifestyle — and Why It Matters The swinger lifestyle is full of exciting connections, sexy possibilities, and u […]

]]> 0 81d3d375f3f9f84c5df273339a3126f4 The Red Couch wrote a new post https://theredcouch.co/?p=1274 Sat, 24 May 2025 22:21:48 +0000 How to Break the Ice at a Swinger Party: Fun Tips for a Confident Approach Walking into your first swinger party (or even your tenth) can be equal parts thrilling and nerve-wracking. You’re surrounded by sexy strangers, sensual e […]

]]> 0 d70cce7afb9d11787534e317af520d61 The Red Couch wrote a new post https://theredcouch.co/?p=1278 Fri, 16 May 2025 21:53:56 +0000 Swinger Etiquette: The Unwritten Rules for a Positive Experience Swinger Etiquette: The Unwritten Rules for a Positive Lifestyle Experience Thinking about entering the swinger lifestyle? Whether you’re a curious couple […]

]]> 0 86c123d694a06210baaa31940113af51 The Red Couch wrote a new post https://theredcouch.co/?p=1270 Sat, 19 Apr 2025 17:15:36 +0000 Swinger Fashion: What to Wear to Your First Lifestyle Party How to Dress for the Occasion at Swinger Events: Confidence, Comfort & Style When it comes to swinger party outfits, there’s one golden rule: dress to e […]

]]> 0 a1f46d49ddcaef541db73794016cd2cf The Red Couch wrote a new post https://theredcouch.co/?p=1243 Fri, 22 Nov 2024 22:23:17 +0000 How To Express Your Sexual Needs To Your Partner Effective communication is necessary in order to have a thriving, strong relationship. Part of that communication piece is being able to express your […]

]]> 0 1d77fbecd76a7cf49f52652de832341d The Red Couch wrote a new post https://theredcouch.co/?p=1225 Fri, 01 Nov 2024 19:37:33 +0000 Review: La Dolce Vita Phoenix Swinger Club Another one of our long over due reviews on the Phoenix lifestyle scene. To be honest, since we’ve been in Phoenix, we haven’t had the opportunity to get […]

]]> 0 e2fd41935fe17772c81181623f858275 The Red Couch wrote a new post https://theredcouch.co/?p=1175 Fri, 18 Oct 2024 19:56:50 +0000 New Year, New Content! Happy 2024! We hope our readers and followers had an amazing 2024. It seems like it’s been a rough one for a lot of people, so if you’re like us and found […]

]]> 0 d9312f13560a55855a1a44d783bfedc6 The Red Couch posted a new activity comment https://theredcouch.co/2020/07/27/tips-for-newbie-swingers/#comment-17514 Wed, 17 Jan 2024 17:49:50 +0000 Hi Sharon. We aren’t necessarily a membership group. You can follow all our updates and announcements by signing up on our email list if you haven’t already!

In reply to - The Red Couch wrote a new post I'm not sure if we've covered this topic or not, but if we have, it should be a topic that is living and breathing. The swingers scene is different city by city and state by state. We decided to update you on our […] ]]> 1730a5996dd90200dbab24c5a578cd1a The Red Couch posted a new activity comment https://theredcouch.co/2020/06/01/is-there-racism-in-the-lifestyle/#comment-15444 Wed, 20 Sep 2023 20:13:27 +0000 Thanks for your sharing your opinion. Not wanting to hook up with someone because you’re not attracted is one thing. Not wanting to hook up with them

    because of their race

is another. And yes, this applies to all races, not just white people. But let’s keep it real. 90% of the people I see at parties, events and clubs are WHITE. Fuck, we just…Read more

In reply to - The Red Couch wrote a new post Initial disclosure: I write this from the perspective of a white, married male. My perspective is what it is. We write about things we've noticed and seen from a married, white couple's perspective concerning […] ]]> 125718b8fe1e954409b5c31ecbb0815c The Red Couch posted a new activity comment https://theredcouch.co/2020/06/01/is-there-racism-in-the-lifestyle/#comment-14147 Wed, 21 Jun 2023 19:43:26 +0000 Thank you for sharing. While we haven’t experienced that on Kasidie, I’m sure it does exist and sorry that happened to you.

In reply to - The Red Couch wrote a new post Initial disclosure: I write this from the perspective of a white, married male. My perspective is what it is. We write about things we've noticed and seen from a married, white couple's perspective concerning […] ]]> d4ddd4270be7610660c2ea17ab5c0147 The Red Couch wrote a new post https://theredcouch.co/?p=1193 Fri, 05 May 2023 08:05:51 +0000 Unlocking Sexual Arousal In Your Woman Sexual arousal is a complex and multifaceted experience that can vary greatly from person to person. While it is often assumed that men are the more […]

]]> 0 154acb1854e907254b9b8bfa265ebb7e The Red Couch wrote a new post https://theredcouch.co/?p=1181 Tue, 02 May 2023 18:09:34 +0000 5 Reasons Why We Hate Onlyfans We have an Onlyfans page. Why? For fun. We had heard the hype about how much money you can make on Onlyfans as a swinger couple, so we decided to set one […]

]]> 1 8a29a652593bda8cfa69a878319db480 The Red Couch posted a new activity comment https://theredcouch.co/2021/02/14/review-club-discretions-swingers-club-phoenix-az/#comment-13487 Tue, 02 May 2023 17:43:44 +0000 Thanks for your comments.

In reply to - The Red Couch wrote a new post Review: Club Discretions Swingers Club Phoenix AZ Some people like it sleazy. Some people like it classy. Nothing wrong with either. While visiting Phoenix, AZ this past week we decided to hit up a local […] ]]> 88043f667eb1131cb112e1935d933d31 The Red Couch posted a new activity comment https://theredcouch.co/2021/02/14/review-club-discretions-swingers-club-phoenix-az/#comment-11746 Tue, 03 Jan 2023 22:40:03 +0000 Stating an establishment has a problem because of “black people” is a racist comment. I don’t care if it’s Walmart. Thanks for commenting.

In reply to - The Red Couch wrote a new post Review: Club Discretions Swingers Club Phoenix AZ Some people like it sleazy. Some people like it classy. Nothing wrong with either. While visiting Phoenix, AZ this past week we decided to hit up a local […] ]]> 80d941dfb0107ae8a894d721d10370c4 The Red Couch posted a new activity comment https://theredcouch.co/2020/10/20/tips-for-meeting-swinger-couples-online/#comment-7529 Wed, 03 Aug 2022 17:54:51 +0000 thanks!

In reply to - The Red Couch wrote a new post We were recently swapping [pun completely intended] stories with some newbie friends of ours about situations meeting swinger couples that went bad. One of which they had met up with a couple from an online […] ]]> 66f46a28d6d35ecd36396f73e48d6347 The Red Couch wrote a new post https://theredcouch.co/?p=1159 Fri, 01 Jul 2022 23:35:01 +0000 We’ve heard this term thrown around a bit in fetish and lifestyle circles, so we wanted to do some research to better understand what exactly a Hedonist is. The simplest definition of a hedonist, is someone who […]

]]> 0 4b1754748f1668a8553c641e2bbf3ccc The Red Couch wrote a new post https://theredcouch.co/?p=241 Sun, 26 Jun 2022 00:15:01 +0000 We recently took a little poll with our Facebook friends and asked the men who follow us a question: What are your top sexual turn ons? We were kind of surprised by the things that men said turn them on. Either […]

]]> 0 9a7264bbfdfede2554a8c26dfdb7f65d The Red Couch wrote a new post https://theredcouch.co/?p=1118 Tue, 24 May 2022 00:03:34 +0000 All couples have heated discussions or arguments. In fact, if you are in a relationship that doesn’t experience disagreements, arguments or fights in your relationship then there might be a lack of honest, open […]

]]> 0 e2e53ccb1bdddc65118c4674a8f9b908 The Red Couch wrote a new post https://theredcouch.co/?p=1104 Thu, 21 Apr 2022 23:53:29 +0000 Every now and then we have a company reach out to us to do a review on a new vibrator product they are launching. We are very grateful for the opportunity to share with our readers these reviews to give you a […]

]]> 0 4f7664eefc124993afaedda8a359b539 The Red Couch posted a new activity comment https://theredcouch.co/2020/12/30/can-i-get-stis-stds-in-the-swinger-lifestyle/#comment-5005 Tue, 22 Mar 2022 19:12:51 +0000 The only “safe sex” is masturbation. If you’re going to be sexually active outside of a monogamous relationship, it’s the risk you take I suppose.

In reply to - The Red Couch wrote a new post This topic on The Red Couch is long overdue and seems to be a taboo subject discussed with those in the swinger lifestyle - STI's. A major concern of most people considering getting into the swinger lifestyle is […] ]]> 342509aa58b4a0942ce02c52d8fd2f40 The Red Couch posted a new activity comment https://theredcouch.co/2022/02/23/should-you-keep-the-swinger-lifestyle-separate-or-nah/#comment-4794 Mon, 07 Mar 2022 21:47:30 +0000 When your vertical friends ask your other friends how you met, what do you tell them?

In reply to - Mrs. J wrote a new post By Mrs. J.We aren’t exactly experts in the topic of swinging, we are more of what the kids these days would call nubes, but we have somehow managed to learn a whole hell of a lot along the way. And somehow have b […] ]]> 29f9b99f2c59768d033a6038c8bd45c4 The Red Couch wrote a new post https://theredcouch.co/?p=1091 Thu, 03 Mar 2022 22:15:50 +0000 This review is long overdue since we attended the GenieWishes Swinger Group Charity Glow Party back in September 2021 when we first relocated to Phoenix Arizona.

As usual, we have to plug in a disclaimer here. […]

]]> 0 d3d3da2cf502cb7a234e57720b7a3e18 The Red Couch posted a new activity comment https://theredcouch.co/2022/02/23/should-you-keep-the-swinger-lifestyle-separate-or-nah/#comment-4689 Thu, 24 Feb 2022 19:49:42 +0000 Thank you for sharing. That makes sense!

In reply to - Mrs. J wrote a new post By Mrs. J.We aren’t exactly experts in the topic of swinging, we are more of what the kids these days would call nubes, but we have somehow managed to learn a whole hell of a lot along the way. And somehow have b […] ]]> 125011eb0d7ec90714f6c069066f9f14 The Red Couch posted a new activity comment https://theredcouch.co/2021/02/14/review-club-discretions-swingers-club-phoenix-az/#comment-4549 Mon, 14 Feb 2022 21:02:59 +0000 I’d recommend trying out a website called Kasidie to learn about events or groups in your area.

In reply to - The Red Couch wrote a new post Review: Club Discretions Swingers Club Phoenix AZ Some people like it sleazy. Some people like it classy. Nothing wrong with either. While visiting Phoenix, AZ this past week we decided to hit up a local […] ]]> 98f4abdcdb48334651d39f265344288d The Red Couch wrote a new post https://theredcouch.co/?p=1072 Fri, 11 Feb 2022 23:37:32 +0000 Single males in the swinger lifestyle are always a catch 22. Those of us interested in interracial sex find hooking up even more of a challenge. For those of us that enjoy a good MFM threesome, we welcome them. […]

]]> 0 a2a5231909204968e39dd752bb393f60 The Red Couch posted a new activity comment https://theredcouch.co/2020/12/30/can-i-get-stis-stds-in-the-swinger-lifestyle/#comment-3838 Mon, 20 Dec 2021 18:59:08 +0000 This would be a great future post!

In reply to - The Red Couch wrote a new post This topic on The Red Couch is long overdue and seems to be a taboo subject discussed with those in the swinger lifestyle - STI's. A major concern of most people considering getting into the swinger lifestyle is […] ]]> 9931c65c2edec961ef6045588bfacc75 The Red Couch posted a new activity comment https://theredcouch.co/2021/02/14/review-club-discretions-swingers-club-phoenix-az/#comment-3837 Mon, 20 Dec 2021 18:58:42 +0000 Google first!

In reply to - The Red Couch wrote a new post Review: Club Discretions Swingers Club Phoenix AZ Some people like it sleazy. Some people like it classy. Nothing wrong with either. While visiting Phoenix, AZ this past week we decided to hit up a local […] ]]> 7391e563c52d88b3059b5064260bf21a The Red Couch posted a new activity comment https://theredcouch.co/2021/12/13/the-red-couch-our-swinger-lifestyle-story/#comment-3732 Tue, 14 Dec 2021 00:03:38 +0000 Thanks guys! We love dancing, but the dance floor situation requires a sound system and DJ, which drives up the price of registration and also takes the focus away from actually meeting people. Parties we’ve been to with DJ’s have sucked because there wasn’t space for socializing and the music was often too loud for talking. That being said, if we…Read more

In reply to - The Red Couch wrote a new post For those of you just starting to follow The Red Couch, we should probably re-introduce ourselves. My wife and I have been married for 13 years. We are your typical neighbor next door couple, family jobs etc. […] ]]> f5a3a8b4dd6c25ab4bcb43419a3a9656 The Red Couch posted a new activity comment https://theredcouch.co/2021/12/13/the-red-couch-our-swinger-lifestyle-story/#comment-3730 Mon, 13 Dec 2021 23:33:21 +0000 Thankfully, the owner didn’t care. 🙂

In reply to - The Red Couch wrote a new post For those of you just starting to follow The Red Couch, we should probably re-introduce ourselves. My wife and I have been married for 13 years. We are your typical neighbor next door couple, family jobs etc. […] ]]> 61220081ffdae2d0f240f137a0ef855c The Red Couch wrote a new post https://theredcouch.co/?p=1042 Mon, 13 Dec 2021 20:06:22 +0000 For those of you just starting to follow The Red Couch, we should probably re-introduce ourselves. My wife and I have been married for 13 years. We are your typical neighbor next door couple, family jobs etc. […]

]]> 2 636b6ad536bc15a8e78b5a2ed132e861 The Red Couch posted a new activity comment https://theredcouch.co/2021/09/21/bisexual-men-swingers-community/#comment-2938 Fri, 08 Oct 2021 15:46:25 +0000 Thanks for your comments! What do you think will help change this attitude?

In reply to - The Red Couch wrote a new post We at The Red Couch have noticed a trend in conversation in the swingers community over the past year - bisexual men. That being said, we affirm that the topic of bisexual men in the swingers community is […] ]]> c8da60fe1eb66c5263028b4e95d36513 The Red Couch posted a new activity comment https://theredcouch.co/2021/09/21/bisexual-men-swingers-community/#comment-2937 Fri, 08 Oct 2021 15:45:43 +0000 Thank you for sharing! We hope this attitude changes in the LS community.

In reply to - The Red Couch wrote a new post We at The Red Couch have noticed a trend in conversation in the swingers community over the past year - bisexual men. That being said, we affirm that the topic of bisexual men in the swingers community is […] ]]> b978609c7177cde66756db446d051a80 The Red Couch and Mrs. J are now friends https://theredcouch.co/activity/p/335/ Fri, 08 Oct 2021 13:57:38 +0000 0 d1abbb89960580bb9dcec4681937ce56 The Red Couch wrote a new post https://theredcouch.co/?p=1028 Thu, 07 Oct 2021 21:43:51 +0000 TRC: Share w/ us about yourselves. Mr and Mrs J: We are high school sweethearts. Been together for just over 21 years, married for 14. We have a 7 year old son. Our daytime professions are that of a teacher and a […]

]]> 0 cec531b4da852504480b44d23aff1396 The Red Couch posted a new activity comment https://theredcouch.co/2018/12/03/5-damn-good-pieces-of-advice-for-swinger-newbies/#comment-2859 Fri, 01 Oct 2021 22:13:57 +0000 We’re about to post a review on Genie Wishes. Definitely recommend this group.

In reply to - The Red Couch wrote a new post 5 Damn Good Pieces of Advice for Swinger Newbies Although we can't be sure, we realize there is a good percentage of people that read our blog that might be married or in a relationship and are brand spankin new […] ]]> cc966d763c5532380e2a331f7bce81bf The Red Couch posted a new activity comment https://theredcouch.co/2018/12/03/5-damn-good-pieces-of-advice-for-swinger-newbies/#comment-2795 Fri, 24 Sep 2021 20:54:53 +0000 We are honestly new to Phoenix so not familiar with all options. We have heard house parties are the best options and you need to network a bit to find them and get invited. Try looking on Kasidie.com website or SLS.

In reply to - The Red Couch wrote a new post 5 Damn Good Pieces of Advice for Swinger Newbies Although we can't be sure, we realize there is a good percentage of people that read our blog that might be married or in a relationship and are brand spankin new […] ]]> fe3e3f293a4e3ca5a6737318fe37aa13 The Red Couch posted a new activity comment https://theredcouch.co/2021/09/21/bisexual-men-swingers-community/#comment-2793 Fri, 24 Sep 2021 20:52:49 +0000 totally agree!

In reply to - The Red Couch wrote a new post We at The Red Couch have noticed a trend in conversation in the swingers community over the past year - bisexual men. That being said, we affirm that the topic of bisexual men in the swingers community is […] ]]>