Our NYE Kinky Bucket-List for 2019

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In celebration of a new year, we decided to share with you our top 5 sexy bucket-list items for 2019:

1. Make more friends in the LS we don’t play with.
We have realized over the past year the importance of other kinky friends. We don’t necessarily have to play with these friends, but just people who get what we are about and we can be ourselves around. We have gone back and forth about how involved we want to be with LS people. While we might not connect with everyone, we feel like it’s important to find people to laugh with, have fun and bounce ideas off of.

2. More role play.
The wife and I would like to try more role play in the bedroom. As to what type of role play, we are still trying to figure that out. It would be hot to be out for a night of drinks only to come home and find “firefighter Steve” waiting at home to put out the fire between her legs. Conversely, the wife could come downstairs from her evening shower as a blonde french maid and do a bit of cleaning. Mind you she is not french, nor blonde.

3. Hit up an event or party out of state.
We love to travel as it is, though budget-wise we haven’t been able to do much traveling lately. Introduce small kids into the picture and traveling becomes a huge expense and orchestration. However, we can still travel to surrounding states to check out the scene there. We’d love to hit up Iowa, Wisconsin, Ohio, or Michigan and see what type of kinky people live there.

4. More rope/D/s play.
Last Christmas I bought the husband a rope kit. Included was 24ft of rope and a book on how to tie knots. This was probably the best gift he got for Christmas, but sadly, it’s only gotten a rare use in 2018. Come to find out rope ties and set up take something we don’t have a lot of — time. After a day of work, chasing kids and putting them down to bed, the last thing we want to do is spend an hour unraveling rope, figuring out knot tutorials and then untying. We hope to change this habit and make sure we invest in our rope education more.

5. Learning the art of foreplay/flirting.
Our first kiss was on our wedding day. This should tell you the extent of our knowledge of foreplay or flirting. We came from a religious background that taught flirting was wrong. Why? We have no idea. We just followed the sheep and tried to keep our distance from the opposite sex for fear. We don’t recommend this avenue to anyone. Instead, we hope to learn and practice more fun flirting, joking and having fun with people this year. We also would love to learn more foreplay techniques to help warm things up before we get to it.

What is on your sexual bucket-list for 2019? Did any of these resonate with you? We’d love to hear your comments below and we wish you a happy NYE!

3 thoughts on “Our NYE Kinky Bucket-List for 2019

  1. Well, my lifetime bucket list includes doing a DP scene. Of course, I’d like this to happen closer to 2019 than 2030. 🙂 I keep it open-ended because it has to be the right person/scene. Actually, I haven’t really thought about what would be next on my list after this one! Lol.

  2. -Become more involved in scene. While we already attend a lot of events I want to share our experiences via a blog and reviews on Fetlife. I’ve started a review group there and want to expand on it. Also encourage others to write reviews from their experiences as we all have different kinks. https://fetlife.com/groups/183695

    -We love meeting new people. As friends,
    Fellow kinks and potential play partners.

    -Travel to some Kink events outside Chicago. With my partners new job this will be possible. From Vancouver, San Francisco, Las Vegas, to the Netherlands. We have kink friends in all of those spots who run various events and play parties.

    -Find the right match for a DP scene with Quinn.

    -I have more but I’ll start there. This is a great group with a great host/moderator. Highly encourage people to come meet them. They are genuine and real.

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