5 Tips For A Great Threesome Experience

Make your threesome experience a good one

We can’t say we are experts on threesomes, but we can offer up a few tips on making your threesome experience a good one. Over the course of our journey we’ve explored both the MFM threesome combination and the FFM threesome arrangement. For those new to threesomes MFM stands for the “male, female, male” combination. The arrangement of the letters are important, as the “F” in MFM is placed in the middle to communicate the who the focus is on. Where the gender letter is placed in the combination will determine whether any bisexual preference is expressed. In our case the wife is bi-curious so in our FFM situation, the female would, and always should, be interested in playing with both of us and so on. (Hopefully that explanation is helpful and not more confusing.) 🙂

Based on our experience, here are a few tips to make your night of sexual exploration a good one when inviting a third to be part of your playtime:

1. Communicate your desires clearly and set your expectations upfront.
You should have an open and honest conversation about what you want to see happen with your partner. For me, it was always a fantasy to see my wife pleasured by other men. Being able to watch her get fucked by a well hung stud and participate in filling her holes has always been a huge turn on for me. After our conversation about it, we found it was something she had never considered but was open to it. Her concerns were normal. That she wouldn’t know what to do with two cocks or that she would feel bad if she enjoyed it too much. All of your feelings about it should be put out on the table before you act on anything. Don’t try and surprise your spouse and spring something on them, unless you want a mess of trouble.

2. Watch some threesome porn together.
This was very helpful for us to know what to expect. How would we position ourselves? What does the guy do while the other is taking a turn pleasuring her? How would two girls work in a situation like this? Contrary to popular belief, not all porn is harmful, but instead can be a very hot and sexy way to educate yourselves. We encourage porn use, and especially encourage people to watch it together.

3. If you’re not ready to go all the way, start with oral introduction.
Those of us in the lifestyle call this a “soft swap.” A soft swap is where you give your partner permission to give head or perform oral on another person, but you’re not going all the way. If you’re not comfortable seeing your partner with someone else, or if it’s your first time, this could be a great way to ease into things without the pressure of going all the way. Be careful though and put your limits out there, because a soft swap can quickly turn into more if you’re not careful.

4. Find an experienced male or female to play with.
Probably not a good idea to bring a newbie into the mix. Someone who isn’t experienced with another couple might not know how to conduct themselves causing issues or the potential to get emotionally attached . Newbies can find it hard to perform in front of others unless they are used to it. We aren’t saying give someone a chance to explore things for the first time. We all need to start somewhere. We are just recommending for your first few times finding someone that has experience in this. You can typically find these people on one of the many kinky or alt dating websites out there.

5. In the moment, take it slow.
You’ve fantasized about this for a while now, so no need to rush! Enjoy the moment. We’ve had issues finding guys that will take their time with the wife. Some guys either are finishing up too quick by accident or they just have no stamina. This can be disappointing seeing that you are already probably fucking your wife properly, your third should at least be up to par with yourself if not a better fuck buddy. That being said, everyone has bad days and sex is never stellar 100% of the time. If you enjoyed your third buddy, give them another shot a 2nd and third time. Invite them back again and you might find the repeat is better than the prior.

What tips do you suggest?

There are many other tips we could probably give, but for the sake of time, we’ll end here. We’d like to hear from you! What would be your best piece of advice for a couple interested in threesomes? Post in the comments below and happy unicorn hunting!

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